Marrying a User

You will need to make sure they are in the same server as you. To marry a user, you will need to run n!marry <user>. Once you do so, a dialog will be sent for the other user to confirm. They will be pinged to make sure they are well and truly aware that you want to marry them!

If they say Yes. Then you are now a couple, congratulations!

Now, you can check the marriage status with n!marriage <user> The embed will display information such as who you are married to and the date you got married.


  • If you are married already, you cannot marry another user. You must divorce the existing user before you marry someone else.

  • If the user is already married to another user. Wait until they divorce.

  • You cannot marry yourself or bots. (Stupid right?)

Divorcing a User

To divorce a user, run n!divorce <user>. The following dialog will be sent to confirm this.

Specifying Yes will result in all of your marriage data and the other user's marriage data to be wiped. Thus resulting in you becoming single.

What if I can't Marry or Divorce a user?

You will need to let us know if there is an inactive user or you cannot legitimately divorce a user. Please see this guide on what to do if that happens!

Users that are currently married prior to the Nate Bot Next Generation Update will have their date shown as N/A. To fix this, you will need to divorce and marry again as we have not tracked Dates beforehand.

The Relationship Command and the ability to change the backgrounds is fully removed as of the Next Generation update. It will simple redirect to the simple Marriage Command.